RELATIONSHIP #101 (pt 2)

Communication is KEY in any relationship, be it a romantic or platonic relationship. Not everyone finds communicating easy, some people find that they have to constantly put in the effort. Communication is not only in the content of what you say, it is also in the tone and manner in which you say it. Don't wait for your partner to miraculously read your mind before you say what's bothering you, the silent treatment does not help! 

Be clear on you wants and needs in the relationship, clearly state them out, it makes it easier for your partner to do more things that will please you and less of what annoys you. Avoid demanding or bossy tones, your partner should be seen as your equal.

If you don't like something say it, don't forget to mention when you do like something your partner does, let them know that they are on the right path in making you happy, make them feel appreciated. "Please" and "thank you" are very powerful, be sure to use them.

Good communication helps a lot during arguments, express properly how you feel, allow your partner express theirs, listen and understand each others point of view, then find a common ground.

Having the capacity to forgive is one thing you must have when you are in a relationship. People fail us and your partner is no exception. It may be something really small, or something as big as cheating. Many relationships these days lack forgiveness, hence they don't last.

I hear people say cheating is not enough for them to leave their partner because nobody is perfect. 

Forgiving someone who has hurt you, especially if it's someone you are in love with, is a very hard process. But once you have made the decision to let go of the past and focus on the present, focus on making the current situation better, it would be easier to handle. The key is to focus on the present.

Also remember that forgiving your partner frees you from the heavy feelings of sadness, anger or regret.

Sometimes, we just want someone we can vent to, someone who will offer a comforting ear to our problems. To be a good listener, you have to actually pay attention to what your partner is saying, never brush it off, no matter how irrelevant it may seem to you. Understand when your advice is needed and offer it as best as you can.

Listening to your partner will help you both resolve your differences without it turning into a fight. You can discover so many things about your partner if you just listen, it will give you a deeper understanding of who they are, their wants and needs.

Truly yours,