Love is NOT a feeling

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I have always wondered, what happens when the "butterfly in belly" feeling fades? What happens when your heart doesn't always skip a beat when you see your significant other? Does it mean the love is no longer there? Is it enough reason to decide to move on?

The truth is, love  is a LOT more than the feeling. It is a LOT more than the initial “months” of interaction. Love is a DECISION. You fall in love and then you must work to STAY in love, this is where your decision comes in. You make the decision to be patient, loving, kind, true, loyal and committed to that one person.

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"Love means caring even when you don’t want to. Love means sticking around even when the person has lost the things that attracted you to them in the first place e.g. their looks, their physique, their sense of humor, their money.  Love means waking up every day and asking how you can make that person happy instead of wondering if they make you happy or not. Love is HARD WORK. You can't just sit around waiting for it to feel a certain way. This is why so many people who ‘fell in love’ can so easily ‘fall out of love’. They never learned what real love was."

"When you have a deep and real love for someone, passion will be a part of it, but realize that passion is something that can ebb and flow. Some days it is a hot roaring fire, the next it is a slow burn, then the next day it sparks again etc. You'll learn with time that love is just like that, riding the waves when they're high and swimming when its low.  Either way, you stay in the water."

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Humans are naturally selfish, so it takes a lot of will power to make this decision and see it through. Loving someone is not a walk in the park, it is not easy to look passed disappointments and hurt and still decide to stay put...it is not easy. Real love takes work, daily hard work. Hard work that always pays off.

If you feel like it's all fading away, and you are considering giving up. Take a deep breath and think things through, evaluate your love for your significant other. Make a conscious decision and it will be a whole lot easier.





Truly yours,



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8 thoughts

  1. I love Aby #nohomo.... loving someone is not a walk in the park.... it's hardwork. You can't be selfish and then find someone to love you. You have to love and be loved back. There are times you just get tired.... like you just want to be alone.... and for people like me that can get tired of something or someone easily....mehn its not easy for me but is it enough to walk away? No way. I just take a deep breath and try to think back why I even fell in love with this person in the 1st place and when I remember, I smile and keep loving. Works for me all the time.

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  2. Love is not moin moin...it is hardwork...everyday ! Its a decision but well worth it

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  3. Love is also about compromising ....some people just say the L word without knowing what it means....some feel when your heart beat skips for someone then you are in love....*yinmu*.....are you ready to compromise when the heart is no more skipping for that person? Love the write up.

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  4. Please where is the repost buton or reblog button. I must blog this oh, its not thief thief oh cos I'm telling you now. You are literally speaking to me right now. I have decided to love your blog
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  5. I feel like people throw the word love around too loosely sometimes. They will say they are "in love" for about a week and by the next week they have already moved onto someone else. It's really hard to define love, but as you put it, it is a decision and you have to put in effort to keep it alive. justaise.blogspot.com

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  6. Amen!!! Love is def way more than the butterfly-in-the-belly feeling

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  7. This is a very beautiful post, I still dey find butterfly for my belly.

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  8. Nice write up...... Love is deep!!! Bt totally worth is especially with the right ones

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