I'm sure the title of this post has got you wondering...hehe...well you won't be wondering for much longer. This was written by a friend and fellow blogger, Rume, of Girlylifebybloom.blogspot.com, i loved it and just could not resist sharing it with you guys! You should really check out her blog, lots of good stuff for you there! Okay i'm gonna stop talking here and end your suspense....enjoy and don't forget to pick a tip or two *smiles*
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When they pull away, they can stretch only so far before they come springing back. A rubber band is the perfect metaphor to understand the male intimacy cycle. This cycle involves getting close, pulling away and then getting close again...Men instinctively feel this urge to pull away, it is not a decision or choice, it just happens and bear in mind that it is neither his fault nor her fault. It is a natural cycle.
When a man loves a woman, periodically he needs to pull away before he can get closer.
Trust me I have experienced this first hand :).
Women misinterpret a man's pulling away because generally, we pull away for different reasons like, when we are hurt or afraid of being hurt, or when our man has done something wrong or disappointed us.
What we Women should know!!!
This pulling away mechanism enriches a relationship cos when your Man comes springing back he comes with so much love and care...tho our normal reaction would be to PANIC cos we are not sure why he has decided to pull away, but please don't panic because that would put him under pressure and he is likely to keep pulling away.
A woman will unconsciously sense when a man is pulling away and precisely at those times she will attempt to reestablish their intimate connection and say "Lets talk".
When a man is pulling away is not the time to talk or try to get closer. Let him pull away, after sometime, he would return. He would act loving and supportive and will act as though nothing has happened...This is the time to talk..this is the Golden time.
Tho at this time we women generally are scared to talk cos the last time she wanted to talk he pulled away and is now confused if he is ready to listen.
Choose Wisdom
Men generally don't realize how their sudden pulling away and later returning affects women.
A wise man grows to understand his own cycle and reassures his lady when he pulls away that he would be back.
A wise woman learns not to demand that a man talks but asks that he truly listens to her. She trusts that he will gradually open up more and listen to her.
A wise woman does not give up, she patiently and lovingly persists with a knowing that few women have.
Hang on lady, you have not lost him yet...Insecurity kills relationships.
Choose knowledge and Wisdom.
Written by Rume Ogufere
SOURCE: Girly Life by Bloom BlogLabels: Relationships
