Relationships, a blessing or a curse? You can't say for sure, it depends on your reaction to this colorful and insightful mosaic of knowledge displayed by Chris Emeka 'Jazz'...
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It becomes vulnerability when
you hop into a new relationship whilst getting over a broken romance. The
search for someone who is free to return your devotion now seems unending and
the goal looks unattainable.
The purpose now seems defeated with individuals
seeking self-gratification.
The truth remains that the exteriors would
diminish, so if I were you, I wouldn't solely keep my focus there! What happened
to Personality? What happened to Emotions? What happened to Love? Love, sweet
word with no true definitions, the foundation of it all, even of the earth, other
factors have key roles to play here.
"All men are the same"..."you know women,they
can never be trusted"...familiar sayings, but they both possess no iota of
truth. Not all men are cads and not all women are untrustworthy; that's where
knowledge should come in. My advice is this; don't go searching for what will
eventually find you. Your Mr or Mrs right would only come when you do right!
Your partner is not far from you, life and love only becomes what you make of
them.
It's one thing to get the one, it's another
thing to keep them and make them stay. Maintenance should then become the
keyword. Don't take advantage of the person's vulnerability, instead give them
strength, don't take them for granted, give them the audience they need from you
and in you! Many mistake these facts by simply relating it to the men, wrong! As
partners,there's a great deal of work to be done by both parties for the union
and for each other. If you don't offer such services as giving a listening ear
and being a caring person, don't expect such from anyone and prepare for a
lonely life ahead.
Create for yourself an opposite sex of your
exact personality, comparing also your habits with all ramifications and see if
you are compatible and comfortable with you, if you are, thumbs up! And if you
are not...well, improve and keep building yourself. Remember, self-deception is
the greatest of all forms of madness, don't deceive yourself by lying to yourself,that's
why you were given a conscience by the Creator-the Lover of all.
Nonetheless, many have found a relationship a
slave camp, many have thought it to be great bondage, some have explored it and
found it to be a dwelling place, only few become happy in it, a small number just
enter into it to fill their empty spaces and as a means of consolation, others
are simply lost and don't believe in it. Whether you believe in it or not, your
partner becomes to you whatever it is you make of them, you have a lot of work
to do!
The next time you find yourself in a
relationship, consider yourself first if fit for the battle ahead and make sure
you are not selfish as regards any discipline. Get wisdom and knowledge
people, but in all your findings also get understanding; Know your partner like a
nursery school rhyme, strengths and weaknesses, turn-on's and turn-offs, likes and
dislikes...not for knowing sake, but for yourself, as a manual to guide you
through your love-life.
If you have compared and you understand what
it takes, feel free to suffer the discomforts and enjoy every moment not
forgetting your happiness!
Written by Chris Emeka 'Jazz'
Labels: Guest post, Relationships
